A Very Sad Final Hearing Statement

Statement (Final Hearing)
Monday 19th November 2005

For almost the last three years I have had to fight to be a dad to my children. I am tired of this. It as so far cost me an implausible amount – economically and emotionally. All I ever wanted was to be participatory in my childrens development and lives post separation, but it seems that the law system will not allow this to happen. The law system is one which has done nothing over this time other than act pavlovian-like to every one of the many completely groundless allegations that my ex wife has made. It seems that there is no way out for me. Now, it seems she has delivered on her promise. I asked my solicitor once why she was doing this to me, the reply I got was that she was engaged in a process of throwing mud at the wall; throw enough mud and some will stick. But the real reason that my ex wife so vehemently wants me out of the childrens lives is a mystery to me now and, I suspect it will remain so.

Now I comfort myself with the thought that there is enough of me in my children to ensure that in the years to come they will seek out their father and will learn the truth about what is happening now and will then be more able to make up their own minds. I have come to accept that I will get no solace from the family law system, it has been so unfair up to now, why should it now try to examine all of the allegations at this point by way of a finding of fact hearing. I know it will not. The court has had ample opportunity to do so during the last two and three quarter years but has failed to do so. I argue that in so doing the family court has failed my children; and in fact it has acted in anything but the “interest of the children”.

Since the spring of 2005 I have been tested numerous times and all of these tests proved negative. I have been analysed by one of the country’s leading psychoanalysts and found to be nothing less than astoundingly normal. I have complied with all of the restrictions place before me by the family court and more. In short I have not broken the law, been declared completely sane and of sound mind and body. I am in short a good man and a fit and good dad. These are all FACTS and what is more they can be backed up and verified. Look back at all of the nasty allegations made by my ex wife and there will be found scant evidence to back up and substantiate any of them.

The court needs to know that I have initiated formal complaint proceedings against east riding of Yorkshire social services in regard to the manner in which they have compiled reports for CAFCASS. It is my intention to have at least this record put right in terms of its factuality.

Whichever judge is reading this (there have been so many I loose count) will be under no illusion that I am comprehensively worn down with this whole process (a fact no doubt my ex wife has been relying on these past years). I have only a few wishes which I would like the court to grant.
That my ex wife provide me with a land line number so that I have a more secure means of contact with my children.
That the judge gives a date for a finding of fact hearing.
That the court advises the school at which my children attend of my parental rights.


This statement is true and accurate to the best of my ability.

Signed this day Monday, 19th November 2007