What Next?

Are there no limits to which Beverley Witham will go to try to separate her children from their father? As the 2nd CAFCASS report is being compiled in readiness for the next court hearing in mid October I wonder what surprises are in store for me for that day, what new allegations will be made against me?

Sometimes I think that by now she will have run out of allegations but she never fails to amaze me with her continued mini war. So watch this space. You will read the outcome for this in my mid October blog...!

Are Courts Acting in the Child's Best Interests?

“Are courts acting in the child's best interests? Neither the courts nor the government have kept any records on the outcomes for the hundreds of thousands of children whose futures have been determined by court judgments. They do not even monitor whether ordered contact is taking place. Orders are made in ignorance in a knowledge vacuum and are a muddle of supposition, bigotry and habit in which every child effectively becomes the subject of an experiment. There is thus no evidence or longitudinal research to prove that positive outcomes have resulted. In fact the evidence suggests the opposite: there appears to be a direct correlation between the explosion in young offending and the epidemic of fatherlessness. Further, the adversarial nature of the courts engenders maximum parental conflict which is emotionally destructive to children and economically devastating for families, forcing many onto benefits. Again, there is a woeful lack of research to demonstrate how protracted family court proceedings impact on children.”(Fathers For Justice, Justice on Trial, http://fathers-4-justice.org/f4j/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=13&Itemid=39 )
With this statement ringing in my ears I find myself yet again having to write a rebuttal to yet another string of falsehoods that has hoodwinked the Family Court into again further separating my children from their Dad. This is a Family Court already much maligned for its outrageous, biased and cynical approach to shared parenting. Am I expecting justice, parental equality and transparency? Not in the least. Over the past two years this court has made orders and acted on false information supplied by my ex partner so many times that now it appears that the entire case is based upon those very falsehoods. In essence, the court, my ex partner and her legal representative have exploited the inequities of the Family Court to dazzling effect; this entire case is built on clay, why can’t this court see that? My partner’s legal representative would always maintain that he is acting on behalf of his client, when in fact this statement is just spin. Lawyers know this law inside out and are very able to manipulate the law so that the result is utter chaos for the parents and the children but ultimately rewarding for themselves. Most telling for me to note is that my ex partner’s solicitor is apparently a mediator as well, I assume that this type of work is not as lucrative for him as, say, a case where two parents are in conflict. From this perspective I will not be the only father that is relishing the coming of that brighter day when the Family Courts become a place of openness, minimum conflict and is truly based on the rock solid principles of shared parenting. Bring me the Batman suit!
I do not know the reason why my ex partner holds so much hatred towards me, so much so that at times I fear for my own life. Already my ex partner has sought to have me arrested several times to no avail, charged with crimes that exist only in her mind, and she has even tried persuade my own GP to have me sectioned under the Mental Health Act on more than one occasion. The general feeling that I have is that my ex partner wants all memory of me extinguished. Just like she has tried to do in the past with her ex’s. For example she led me to believe that one of her ex’s, a Muslim from Kuwait, had died following a heroin overdose. This was in fact, as it turned out, a lie of the cruelest kind.

For the duration of the last two years my ex partner has used the legal system to attempt to blacken my character and render me as good as dead. My ex partner is an intelligent person and has used a legal system already biased heavily in favour of the resident parent (usually mothers) to so grossly distort the truth on any occasion she chooses, and all of this has, and probably will continue to be, achieved with total and utter impunity. For her there are no
punitive sanctions for lying to the court, no recriminations, she will get no bad press. This is very sad. For me, however, there is a nightmare to behold; my children are the real victims of all of this. It is they through a systematic regime of subliminal coaching (many of the psychoanalytical experts the world over are in agreement over the negative effects on children of Parental Alienation Syndrome, but it appears that the Family Court have yet to take on board any of the findings or recommendations, and consequently PAS is not widely recognised in Family Law) are in a real danger of learning to dislike their father, who in the final reckoning, has done no real harm.

A Daddy, Not A Baddy

It seems so long since I saw my children. As I write this (17th September 2007) it was mid March 2007 since I saw them last. My crime? Despite repeated requests since 2005 for the return of my personal belongings from the former family home I was denied them. I was left with no other option but to return to the home when no-one was in to collect my things. This has resulted in BW denying me access to my children. I worry about the long term harm that this using the children as pawns in her petty war with me will have on those two innocent souls.

For the past two and a half years I have had to put up with the most outrageous accusations made against me by my ex wife and only she will truly understand the reasons why she has sought to do this. Why did she make repeated attempts to force my GP to have me sectioned under the Mental Health Act? Why did she say that I was going to abduct my children to another country? Why did she claim that that I illegally attended my sons birthday party when I was over a hundred miles away?

The Police are tired of her accusations; they told me so, but there is little they can do. You see, so long as the accusations are made in such a manner that there is a real or perceived threat to the children they have to act - usually in a manner which is ex parte (in other words, without my knowledge or acquiescence) and expedient.

This Saturday just passed was my daughter's 8th Birthday. I had no address to send her presents and card to.

I would welcome anyone in a similar position to let me share their experiences with me. You can contact me on mostynwitham@gmail.com.